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i was going to wait until i had finished all my reports of James' Waterfall Tour & Collectormania 13 but i think i need to post this now, while it is still 'fresh' as it were.

STOP GROPING JAMES!! whoever you are - this is unpleasant sexual harassment.  If you know anything at all about James, you should have picked up by now just how much he hates strangers touching his private areas - WOULDN'T YOU???  Further, it is no secret that James was abused as a child and naturally, it truly upsets him.

What I find astonishing is the attitude that these weird gropers not only think it is 'clever' and dash off to their equally dim-witted friends and boast they 'groped' James Marsters but seem to view it like taking a trophy ‘scalp’.  They never seem to care that they are sexually harassing a person or how much they may upset them.  Being a celebrity appears to make them fair game, god alone knows why;  i class them with the star-fuckers, sad little buggers.


It wouldn't surprise me if James never went back to Collectormania and considered stopping doing photo ops all together.  Personally I think it would be a real shame and I love our moments together.  Luckily for us, i don't think it will go that far but it is more than likely that there’ll be no different poses for a while and he’ll be sitting down for all of them.


What REALLY pisses me off is the outcome of these nasty little encounters.  James becomes very upset and unhappy and in this latest instance at CM13, on the second day, after having been groped so badly the day before as well, he had to be talked out of walking off the photo shoot completely.  Even though his management prevailed and he stayed and security was stepped up, the rest of us suffered for it. 

I had several photo ops for that day and fortunately, I heard some of happened before I went in, so I was prepared for an unhappy James.   I wasn't prepared for how unhappy.  It translated into further identical photos - which added to the identical photos the previous day [due to a very sore right arm], made me a very unhappy bunny.


I cannot take issue with James for being unprofessional, though some would argue that I should have been able to have different poses [being a 'regular' attendee of several years of non-groping standing].   It is equally sad as I had a little story worked out that we were going to tell in pictures - it would be the time I finally get a decent idea, wouldn't it??  
And after two days of groping harassment, I dreaded Monday, thinking it wasn't going to be a picnic either.  He did regain some composure overnight, however, [after an excellent and well received opening to the Party and a good night’s sleep] and it was only for half an hour, so I got better shots than the day before, though he wasn't moving off that stool!  No reflection on me but if he stands for one, he has to stand for all of us.

You may argue that I didn't have to have multiple photo ops and you are right but having paid a small fortune for these photos, I don't want to tell off or talk to the 'gropers', I want to nail their hands to their private parts, with an industrial nail gun!!


But on Sunday, when I asked could the second shot be a different pose, he told me he was being groped again and wasn’t going to do poses. I saw a very upset man who was still shaking, in no mood or condition to be playful and light-hearted. He turned away from the camera and spoke to me, not trying to hide his distress and i was totally horrified.  i made soothing & sympathetic noises and found i was rubbing his back, the same way you do to an upset child, though i stopped as soon as i realised what i was doing, thinking he might not want to be touched at all.  He seemed oblivious to it however, so no harm done and i hope it did soothe him somewhat.

Malcolm finally reminded us we had more photos to do and we turned back to the camera.  i now have two shots where i found it impossible to smile, though James is trying to.  i held his hand but i have no idea what i said in parting, other than 'hang in there, darling' or some such


So, Gropers, have you got the message yet??????


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May. 13th, 2008 01:20 pm (UTC)
Such an awful thing to happen, and it pains me to hear how upset he was made because of it that weekend. No excuse to treat him like a sack of meat and take those liberties. I wouldn't blame him, either, for stopping interaction unless there's a barrier between him and the fan. :(
May. 13th, 2008 02:43 pm (UTC)
i'm with you there, honey... i can see him doing boring little side-by-sides for a while at least.

*wails* i missed out on my poses... *wails some more* i could cheerfully murder them!
May. 13th, 2008 01:44 pm (UTC)
I read something about it, but didn't realise it was so bad. I want to kill</> them. Really. Grrrr.
May. 13th, 2008 01:45 pm (UTC)
I was so incensed I messed up the html!! Grr grr grrr
May. 13th, 2008 02:43 pm (UTC)
May. 13th, 2008 04:47 pm (UTC)
I'm in the queue with my hammer and nails.
Blimey, I didn't realise how bad it had been. He shows great self-restraint in not beating the crap out of these people - I don't know how he does it.

Further, it is no secret that James was abused as a child

Oh, really? I kind-of guessed, but hadn't realised he'd discussed it.
May. 13th, 2008 08:02 pm (UTC)
Cool, welcome Nail-Sister!
James is a consumate actor and can mask his feelings well...
He has spoken several times about having an abusive parent and his song 'Three' [though rarely heard] expresses a lot of anger on behalf of the victimised child he was and leaves you in no doubt that he was abused.
Last week at the Borderline concert, he spoke about having nightmares as a child, where giants tickle him unmercifully to the point of uncomfortable hysteria, so there were adults who have done this to him.
For anyone to hate unwanted touching of private areas is first, totally normal! But second, for it to upset you to this degree, it is something that has a very unpleasant root.
We do know thankfully that he has had some therapy and i think he has learned how to face, at least some of his demons. i hope this is one of them.

We can only offer support in whatever form he will accept - *says she restraining the desire to envelope Little Brother in a huge loving hug until he relaxes and purrs*
i have to say immediately in my defence, i do this to both sexes and all ages as a comfort thing - but ONLY to people who want and like physical contact!!
May. 13th, 2008 05:13 pm (UTC)
The gropers and the people who seem to want to go out of their way to put him down and claim he's drunk all the time, really annoy me too.
May. 13th, 2008 05:44 pm (UTC)
oh, didn´t realise how bad it had been for him. Heard some rumours during the event, but didn´t know for sure.
Who are these gropers anyway? All the James fans I´ve met have always been so sweet. Has to be people from outside the "fan circle" right?
stupid people...grrr
May. 13th, 2008 11:11 pm (UTC)
oh heavens, how i agree!
i will never understand those who try to see the worst scenario every time and as you say, put him down all the time.
i can only assume it is a desire to make the object of their twisted affections more 'normal' and everyday, less of an icon if you get my drift; so they can say, hey, he's just like us, nothing special. Which is pretty twisted when you think about it, because he is normal and everyday as much as anyone is. He simply is one of the gifted few who have an out-of-the-ordinary talent, that makes them special. But he is still a human being and deserving of respect.
i guess it is that oddity in people that they see themselves reflected in the object of their affections; the alcoholics, or their children, see drink problems in everyone, the neurotics see their own neuroses, irrespective of the fact that it may not be true.
i just wish they'd know when to stop talking and frankly, boring the pants off everyone!

Yes, Buffymon, i think it was people new to James - at least, i fervently hope so! i can't see how it could be a long-time fan, unless they'd taken leave of their senses!

Edited at 2008-05-13 11:16 pm (UTC)
May. 13th, 2008 10:06 pm (UTC)
I just hate those people (I´ll bring the 4`nails next year, you bring the hammer (hard to get through security at the airports!)just in case I´ll spot one of those gropers.)

I felt so sorry for him this year, he wasn´t his usual bouncy James...

And i keep posting the moody pics of him. But there are lot of pics where he seems to be his usual cheaky, happy self, too. Specially the Q&A pics from the Rift. But when we got to Collectormania, he kind of run out of fuel.

I hope he had a good time in Germany and caught up on sleep/sex ;O)

They haven´t posted anything on his sites after the events, so probably not back home yet... Monthly Q&A in a few days, lets see what they say.

Hey, no pressure on more reports! Just hurry up!!!

Last shift for this period, then 5 days of dog-groomng/photo-shopping, 5,5 hours to freedom.

Hugs, Ulla
May. 13th, 2008 11:27 pm (UTC)
Yes, i hate them too!
The whole CM13 thing has left a nasty taste in my mouth and i wish i could turn back time and erase it, for him and for us.
Thank heavens, he was still resilliant enough to come to the Party and 'experience the love' of the mini-concert, as he puts it. And i'm glad the small crowd of us who were there after the last photo shoot on Monday, were able to cheer him and send him off with a smile on his face.
That's in the CM report and it's nearly done!!
May. 14th, 2008 03:16 am (UTC)
Amen sister! A bunch of friggin' idiots!
May. 14th, 2008 08:24 am (UTC)
Ain't that the truth!!
May. 16th, 2008 01:12 pm (UTC)
Well said hon. I came out of the photos bloody angry and actually quite tearful after he shared his thoughts with me on saturday as i told you. It was horrid and i havent posted my pics most of which seem painful to me to look at with clenched fists from me etc, you kind of want to hug him them feel you cant. My first pic sat i was behind him and I put my hand on his shoulder only to whip it off and he held my hand there as if to say no your ok but it doesnt make you feel better as a fan does it, we all felt terribly bad for the guy. I'd like to string these people up for hurting another human being and for upsetting us all in the process. Its not big or clever people so take the hint we will be watching you in future.
May. 16th, 2008 02:33 pm (UTC)
Thank you, whoever you are...
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May. 20th, 2008 10:29 pm (UTC)
Oh hiya! Thanks for identifying the post, i wondered who it was...
May. 19th, 2008 10:58 am (UTC)
But I don't understand, when you groped James, did you change your life? Did you feel better? God! this is so insane for me, really I cannot understand like a person can be so idiot and rude. Do you know what mean respect? I hope that the staff in those conventions kick ass of this persons, for James, but for us too, that do many sacrifice for to participate at those shows, with hope to have fun. I hope that those conventions will change their rules, Vip are persons, aren't animal in a zoo (poor animal too sometime are better than humans ...).
May. 19th, 2008 04:53 pm (UTC)
Well said, youngster!
Respect, in a nutshell...
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